Breaking the Cycle
Today I want to talk about the guilt that often comes with breaking cycles of abuse, poverty, and mental health struggles. If you're someone who's working hard to break these cycles, kudos to you! It's really no small feat. There is a travel companion that often joins you on this journey and its name is guilt. Guilt can come in many forms: leaving family behind, doing better than previous generations, or simply the feeling that you don't deserve your success.
Breaking free from a cycle of poverty or abuse, or overcoming mental health challenges, is like climbing a mountain. It's tough, sometimes lonely, and filled with mixed emotions. One of those sneaky emotions is guilt – a feeling that can catch you off guard when you start to make progress or find success.
Understanding the Guilt
It's common to feel guilty for finding success when those you care about are still struggling.
Families can unknowingly perpetuate cycles of guilt. Breaking free might challenge long-held beliefs or dynamics, causing tension and guilt.
Sometimes, you might question your right to a better life, especially if hardship has been a constant companion.
Coping with the Guilt
First off, know that it's okay to feel guilty. It's a natural response to change and growth.
Talk to someone who gets it. Whether it's a therapist, a support group, or a trusted friend, sharing your feelings can be incredibly liberating.
Reframe Your Success: Your success is not just for you. By breaking the cycle, you're setting a new precedent, maybe even becoming a role model for others.
Give Back: Sometimes, helping others who are in situations you once faced can ease the guilt and bring a sense of closure.
The Power of Breaking the Cycle
Remember, breaking free from negative cycles is not just about personal success; it's a courageous step towards changing the narrative for yourself and potentially for others connected to you. As someone who has dedicated my career to helping people with anxiety and OCD, I know the power of overcoming internal struggles. Your journey is valid, your progress is worth celebrating, and your feelings, including guilt, are important.
